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Getting Along With Your Ex & Why It Actually IS Important
Last year I read all these books that said fighting with your ex causes extreme emotional damage to children. It annoyed me, to say the least! While I definitely didn’t want to hurt my kids, the thought of dealing with my ex-husband on a weekly basis, did not put a smile on my face. It made me recoil in anger and disgust. Yet here I am, smiling at him, saying hi, and occasionally making small talk during pickups and drop offs. Why do I do this? Because of my kids. They didn’t ask for this, and it’s not their fault. Their life has been disrupted enough, and they don’t need…
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8 Lessons I’ve Learned as a Single Mom
Well, it’s the last day of 2019, and yes, that’s me on a motorcycle. A Harley Davidson to be specific! There’s a first time for everything, friends! One year ago I was sobbing my eyes out, mourning the loss of my marriage, of my future dreams, and of a life that I felt had been unfairly snatched away from me. So as I look back on the changes that occurred this year, I thought it wise to share what I’ve learned. Don’t sweat the small stuff. I used to worry about things that were honestly, not a huge deal. Worrying over things that didn’t ever come to fruition was a…
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An unfortunate reality
“Infidelity threatens our sense of self…A violation of trust.” ~Esther Perel, Rethinking Infidelity, Ted Talk If you have ever watched Esther Perel’s Ted Talk, you may remember this quote. She tells us that affairs in the past were discovered by “a receipt in the pants pocket, or lipstick on the collar”. Yet now, the discovery of an affair is usually through technology. And what ensues is a digital trail of emails, text messages, and pictures, that span the length of the affair and reveal the intimate thoughts of both people involved. It is truly what she calls “death by a thousand cuts”. Almost a year ago, I discovered my husband’s…
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The “first year” holidays – surviving & creating my NEW path
I was caught off guard this year when realizing how difficult each holiday would be after separating from my husband. (The first few holidays were incredibly emotional: Valentines Day, Easter, Mother’s Day. All of those holidays that you take for granted when you’re married. They all changed for me this year, and became huge reminders of how different my life is now that I’m getting divorced. Last week was Halloween, another holiday when custody and holiday schedules get complicated. Thankfully I had this kids this year and was able to take them trick or treating, although that won’t happen every year. I can’t even get started on that thought right…
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Divorce Care
If you haven’t heard of Divorce Care, check it out here. The purpose of Divorce Care is to provide help and healing throughout and after divorce. Groups meetings are hosted at local churches and some groups even offer child care through a special group called “Divorce Care 4 Kids”.
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