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The “first year” holidays – surviving & creating my NEW path
I was caught off guard this year when realizing how difficult each holiday would be after separating from my husband. (The first few holidays were incredibly emotional: Valentines Day, Easter, Mother’s Day. All of those holidays that you take for granted when you’re married. They all changed for me this year, and became huge reminders of how different my life is now that I’m getting divorced. Last week was Halloween, another holiday when custody and holiday schedules get complicated. Thankfully I had this kids this year and was able to take them trick or treating, although that won’t happen every year. I can’t even get started on that thought right…
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5 tips to survive (and then thrive) while grieving the loss of your marriage:
After finding out about an affair, you probably feel like your heart has been ripped apart. Your entire body is in pain. Emotionally and physically, you are in shock. Each morning you wake up thinking it was only a nightmare, and then it hits you that this is your life. If you were like me, you couldn’t eat for weeks because your stomach had tightened into a solid rock. Emotionally, you are a wreck, caught between anger, hurt, fear, and shock. Survive? Maybe. Thrive? Doubtful. I promise you, though, it gets easier. Because ten months ago, I was in your shoes. I didn’t think that the pain would go away.…
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Reef Voyage Ankle Boot
When I think of REEF, I think of flipflops. Specifically some cute blue and white ones I wore when I was 15. The name brings to mind surf shops, summer vacation, and my teenage years. Oh my…..However, I hunted high and low for ankle boots with arch support, and read hundreds of reviews on Nordstroms and Zappos. So I’m happy to give these an A+ in all categories! I loved them so much that I bought them in a metallic gold suede and then later, a camel colored suede. (Slightly different style, but the fit is exactly the same). They zip on the side, stretch to accomodate a medium to…
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Party dresses for the day time?! Of course!
“Life is a party. Dress like it.” Audrey Hepburn Think about the dresses in your closet. Are they gathering dust? Are they getting those imprints in the shoulders because tthey’ve been on a hanger for 10 months? Are you wondering if they’re in style anymore, since you haven’t worn them since your dating days? Some of my dresses haven’t seen daylight in a long time. For some reason my mindset was along the lines of I’m a stay at home mom and active during the day, so I need comfort clothing but that won’t get ruined. Okay, so this was very true during the baby stage. But not anymore! My…
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Earth Shoe “Clove” Slide On
After trying on slide ons for the past 2 years (no joke) and not finding anything that fit my shoe requirements: cushioned footbed, arch support, leather, and stylish, I found this one! The fact it happens to be gold leather and have a removable insole is just icing on the cake. It runs large, so I sized down to a 10 regular (I’m typically a 10.5) and even though it still slipped a bit in the heel, I knew it was the best I’d ever find. (I initially added a heel liner to the shoe but after a few months it slipped off but I didn’t have any additional slippage…
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Beach Please!
Beach Please! It’s where I feel the most calm, how about you? I guess I’m a San Diego girl through and through! 🌊 🌴 This graphic tee is so easy to throw on with black jeans or leggings and running shoes if you’re heading out for a bike ride. I love when my clothes multitask! Click here for where to buy! Disclosure: Clicking/ purchasing through this link will allow me to earn a few pennies on the dollar, at no cost to you.
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Divorce Care
If you haven’t heard of Divorce Care, check it out here. The purpose of Divorce Care is to provide help and healing throughout and after divorce. Groups meetings are hosted at local churches and some groups even offer child care through a special group called “Divorce Care 4 Kids”.
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Figuring out Happy
Fun. It’s what I rediscovered about myself after I became a single mom. I’m still fun! Weird, but let me explain. I felt bogged down, anxious, like there was something wrong but I couldn’t put my finger on it. So I chalked it up to parenting. (Kids can truly suck the life out of us, right?!) . But why? I honestly had no clue why I just couldn’t relax. I guess it’s intuition that tells us when something is wrong, but we are mostly just trying to get through the day without accidents or meltdowns, so we don’t have the sense to stop and we can’t put our finger on…
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Are you letting fear interfere?
Don’t let the fear of falling (or failing) stop you! I took my two children to family camp with our church this past weekend and it was a great learning experience for all of us. The kids had a blast running around our cabin with 6 other kids, they grew in their faith, they canoed, made candles, drank endless cups of hot chocolate, and my daughter climbed the tallest rock climbing wall I’d ever seen! She had excitedly talked about it all week, but then changed her mind after putting on the helmet and harness. After sitting and watching everyone else for 10 minutes, she changed her mind again and…
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The bomb that dropped on my white picket fence…
Well it took a crazy upset to shake things up and push me in a new direction. What was that upset, you ask? Divorce. Well, infidelity…and then divorce. The infidelity was like a bomb landing on my life back on December 23rd. Divorce was the path I chose, and I chose it to walk away from the all consuming mushroom of smoke and debris that had become my life. Walking away, and choosing a new path turned me in the right direction when I was so disoriented, I didn’t know up from down. It allowed me to breath, to focus on moving forward, and moving away from something so broken…
