Divorce
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3 Tips for Navigating Custody Changes after Divorce
Custody and the Single Parent Custody. It’s one of the biggest battles we face as single parents going through divorce. And even after a custody schedule becomes normal, it can change again. And again….And yes, maybe even AGAIN. Custody is rarely set in stone. That’s been the case for me throughout my divorce. I went from being a stay at home mom and having my kids every minute of the day……to having them less. And now my time is shrinking again, to a lot less …. I am moving to a 50/50 joint physical custody schedule. Not something I ever pictured for myself as a mom. And most definitely not…
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Divorce? The One Workshop You Need to Attend!
There I was, December 2018, one minute thinking about Christmas dinner and wrapping presents. And the next? I was calling a divorce attorney. Okay, first I was sobbing and gasping for breath. next I was in a therapist’s office, then a Second Saturday workshop, and FINALLY- I was calling an attorney. Sigh…..Betrayal is horrible, right? People think divorce is about the law, but it’s really about three things: family, emotion, and money.” – Second Saturday Workshop First off, divorce is confusing and overwhelming. I mean, most of us don’t have amicable divorces, or we wouldn’t be getting divorced, right? So it’s important to learn as much as we can from…
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5 Step Simplified Bedtime routine for Single Parents
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Divorce & the Holidays: Q&A with author and life expert Liz Pryor
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3 Tips for Surviving the Holidays after Divorce
Whether it’s divorce, death, or any similar trauma….. the holidays can be HARD. (They may have been hard before, but for different reasons- right?) So with Thanksgiving right around the corner & Christmas looming- How do you DEAL with it?? Acknowledge that it will look VERY different this year. Prepare for an emotionally difficult day. Try not to cling to the past! If you only have your kids for 1/2 the day, plan out what it will look like: when you’ll eat or open gifts. Kids leave at 2 pm? Eat your meal at noon. Kids arrive at 5 pm after eating at their dad’s? Serve pie and play board…
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8 Tips for Overcoming Exhaustion as a Single Parent
Becoming a single parent is not an easy transition. I was used to being married and having two adults in the house, just like you. Even if that second adult isn’t too helpful, it’s still two adults in the house! My change from 2 adults to 1 adult was very sudden. Maybe yours was too. As in, I had one day to adjust to my new reality. My brain could barely process that my marriage was ending, much less the fact I was going to single parent a 2 year old and just turned 4 year old. I was in shock and completely in survival mode. My mind couldn’t even…
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Divorced Families: When Your Kids Vacation Without You
Free time? Yes please, says any parent out there. Free time because your ex is taking the kids on vacation? Cue the tears. Break out the tissue box. Well yes, that does change things up. And not in a good way. It’s not fun to send your kids off on a vacation when you’re divorced. Divorced vacations mean you don’t know what your kids are doing. It means you don’t know the details, you don’t know who they are with. You just pray that they are safe and taken care of, all while verrrrrrry far away from you. It’s not fun. The reality of vacations after divorce I cried the…
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I wasn’t made for this- I was made BY this.
What if I told you that yesterday was a good day, a great day? That as the sun cast a warm glow over the evening sky, and my kids raced each other up and down the block on their scooters, I was grateful? That in that moment, I was filled with joy. Would you believe me? A year ago, I would have struggled to believe that myself. But it’s true. And it’s truly a miracle. I may not be a wife, I may have become a #singlemom & #divorcee before my kids have even entered Kindergarten, but that’s okay. I know I’m so much more. I have SO much to…
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Getting Along With Your Ex & Why It Actually IS Important
Last year I read all these books that said fighting with your ex causes extreme emotional damage to children. It annoyed me, to say the least! While I definitely didn’t want to hurt my kids, the thought of dealing with my ex-husband on a weekly basis, did not put a smile on my face. It made me recoil in anger and disgust. Yet here I am, smiling at him, saying hi, and occasionally making small talk during pickups and drop offs. Why do I do this? Because of my kids. They didn’t ask for this, and it’s not their fault. Their life has been disrupted enough, and they don’t need…
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Dating is so Fun!…(Until it’s not)
Am I right? I know everyone has had this experience. Everything is great, just sunshine and rainbows. Then suddenly you screech to a halt and go “Wait. What??” Ironically, I thought I knew and understood men. You know, because I was married to one. When I was married, I doled out dating advice like candy to all my single friends….And then lo and behold, I was single again. And suddenly it was new territory, given the last time I dated I was 25 and the year was 2010. Well, now I can eat humble pie (or crow pie?). Not sure about that saying. But the moral of my story is,…
