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Divorced Families: When Your Kids Vacation Without You
Free time? Yes please, says any parent out there. Free time because your ex is taking the kids on vacation? Cue the tears. Break out the tissue box. Well yes, that does change things up. And not in a good way. It’s not fun to send your kids off on a vacation when you’re divorced. Divorced vacations mean you don’t know what your kids are doing. It means you don’t know the details, you don’t know who they are with. You just pray that they are safe and taken care of, all while verrrrrrry far away from you. It’s not fun. The reality of vacations after divorce I cried the…
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Happy Valentines To You, Single Mama
It’s Valentine’s Day! The day of cupid, love, and lots of pink & red. Also, a day that reminds you of your divorced or newly single status… (As if you need another reminder, right??) For me last year, the holiday loomed up in front of me like a red flag (or open heart surgery). I was one month into my new, grief filled life: ringless, husbandless, and a newly single mom. I was devastated, angry, and still in shock over what my then husband had done to me and to our family. But that morning, on February 14th, the dreaded day of love arrived even when I wished it wouldn’t.…
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An unfortunate reality
“Infidelity threatens our sense of self…A violation of trust.” ~Esther Perel, Rethinking Infidelity, Ted Talk If you have ever watched Esther Perel’s Ted Talk, you may remember this quote. She tells us that affairs in the past were discovered by “a receipt in the pants pocket, or lipstick on the collar”. Yet now, the discovery of an affair is usually through technology. And what ensues is a digital trail of emails, text messages, and pictures, that span the length of the affair and reveal the intimate thoughts of both people involved. It is truly what she calls “death by a thousand cuts”. Almost a year ago, I discovered my husband’s…
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The “first year” holidays – surviving & creating my NEW path
I was caught off guard this year when realizing how difficult each holiday would be after separating from my husband. (The first few holidays were incredibly emotional: Valentines Day, Easter, Mother’s Day. All of those holidays that you take for granted when you’re married. They all changed for me this year, and became huge reminders of how different my life is now that I’m getting divorced. Last week was Halloween, another holiday when custody and holiday schedules get complicated. Thankfully I had this kids this year and was able to take them trick or treating, although that won’t happen every year. I can’t even get started on that thought right…
