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8 Tips for Overcoming Exhaustion as a Single Parent
Becoming a single parent is not an easy transition. I was used to being married and having two adults in the house, just like you. Even if that second adult isn’t too helpful, it’s still two adults in the house! My change from 2 adults to 1 adult was very sudden. Maybe yours was too. As in, I had one day to adjust to my new reality. My brain could barely process that my marriage was ending, much less the fact I was going to single parent a 2 year old and just turned 4 year old. I was in shock and completely in survival mode. My mind couldn’t even…
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I wasn’t made for this- I was made BY this.
What if I told you that yesterday was a good day, a great day? That as the sun cast a warm glow over the evening sky, and my kids raced each other up and down the block on their scooters, I was grateful? That in that moment, I was filled with joy. Would you believe me? A year ago, I would have struggled to believe that myself. But it’s true. And it’s truly a miracle. I may not be a wife, I may have become a #singlemom & #divorcee before my kids have even entered Kindergarten, but that’s okay. I know I’m so much more. I have SO much to…
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Getting Along With Your Ex & Why It Actually IS Important
Last year I read all these books that said fighting with your ex causes extreme emotional damage to children. It annoyed me, to say the least! While I definitely didn’t want to hurt my kids, the thought of dealing with my ex-husband on a weekly basis, did not put a smile on my face. It made me recoil in anger and disgust. Yet here I am, smiling at him, saying hi, and occasionally making small talk during pickups and drop offs. Why do I do this? Because of my kids. They didn’t ask for this, and it’s not their fault. Their life has been disrupted enough, and they don’t need…
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Dating after Divorce: Take 2
Dating is similar to a moth around a flame. The moth may get burned a few times, but despite the burn, he still can’t resist that bright, shining light of (potential) love! Sound familiar? Yep, most of us get burned a few times looking for love. But hopefully we eventually find the one that allows the flame of love to keep shining strong and never burn out. And since most everyone is looking for a relationship (or something along those lines), everyone enters the dating game at some point in their lives. Some of us are just extra lucky and get to re-enter the dating scene after divorce. Yes, all…
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Dating after Divorce – the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Now that I’ve piqued your interest, I’ve got to admit that I haven’t seen much ugly in the post divorce dating scene. Disappointed? Well read on, and you’ll find out why. Maybe it’s because I’ve just lucked out. Or maybe it’s because this time around, I’m treating dating like it truly is: a way to talk and get to know someone and decide if I truly want to see them again. It sounds so obvious, right? But do any of us really think of dating like that? NO…we don’t. We get too caught up in wondering if they like us, if we said the right thing, if we talked to…
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8 Lessons I’ve Learned as a Single Mom
Well, it’s the last day of 2019, and yes, that’s me on a motorcycle. A Harley Davidson to be specific! There’s a first time for everything, friends! One year ago I was sobbing my eyes out, mourning the loss of my marriage, of my future dreams, and of a life that I felt had been unfairly snatched away from me. So as I look back on the changes that occurred this year, I thought it wise to share what I’ve learned. Don’t sweat the small stuff. I used to worry about things that were honestly, not a huge deal. Worrying over things that didn’t ever come to fruition was a…
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Figuring out Happy
Fun. It’s what I rediscovered about myself after I became a single mom. I’m still fun! Weird, but let me explain. I felt bogged down, anxious, like there was something wrong but I couldn’t put my finger on it. So I chalked it up to parenting. (Kids can truly suck the life out of us, right?!) . But why? I honestly had no clue why I just couldn’t relax. I guess it’s intuition that tells us when something is wrong, but we are mostly just trying to get through the day without accidents or meltdowns, so we don’t have the sense to stop and we can’t put our finger on…
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The bomb that dropped on my white picket fence…
Well it took a crazy upset to shake things up and push me in a new direction. What was that upset, you ask? Divorce. Well, infidelity…and then divorce. The infidelity was like a bomb landing on my life back on December 23rd. Divorce was the path I chose, and I chose it to walk away from the all consuming mushroom of smoke and debris that had become my life. Walking away, and choosing a new path turned me in the right direction when I was so disoriented, I didn’t know up from down. It allowed me to breath, to focus on moving forward, and moving away from something so broken…
